31/01/2016

A very different Valentines Day with FarFetch

Today I'm going to tell you about my Valentines day. For the past seven years my husband and I have done exactly the same thing on the annual day of romance. It has become a tradition if you will, symbolic of our love for each other. I am never disappointed, I once even managed to read a paper whilst we were doing it. 

Ladies and Gentlemen, every February the 14th my husband and I go to Morrisons café for sausage and chips.

So as the big day approaches and magazines tell us what we should wear to impress our dearly beloved, I will always be confident in my choice of: Whatever doesn't show up the ketchup. 

Saying this, I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to be the kind of couple who do full blown romance, you know; Helicopter flights, oysters, champagne and rose petals on the bed. Basically, V Day Kim and Kanye style. That's where FarFetch.com come in.

www.terribletumbles.co.uk
Checked Coat - Balmain / FarFetch   Tassle Earrings - Lanvin / FarFetch
Lace Dress - D&G / FarFetch    Embellished Clutch - Lanvin / FarFetch
Pumps - Aquazzura / FarFetch
FarFetch bring together over 300 high end boutiques and showcase over 1000 designers. I must confess, I spent a good few hours on the site whilst I was putting this look together. It would have been difficult not to.

So here it is, my fancy "what if" Valentines outfit. The D&G dress makes me feel weak - It's utterly perfect. Grungy black lace with a hint of my favourite shade of green, teamed with the vibrant red shoes and earrings and the stunning Lanvin clutch (it IS the international day of hearts on everything after all) and all topped of with the power coat of a lifetime. 
Heart Cut Out Ring - Aurelie Bidermann / FarFetch
This outfit is all about the glamour and I'm a bit sad that I'll never get to wear it all. Unless I win on the Premium Bonds... So if, like me, your budget doesn't quite stretch to Balmain, why not wear your heart where we can see it with this slightly more payday friendly Aurelie Bidermann heart ring.
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Jeans - Saint Laurent / FarFetch     Peacoat - Rick Owens / FarFetch
Polo Shirt - Ralph Lauren / FarFetch      Desert Boots - Opening Ceremony / FarFetch
There is just as much choice for the discerning gent - This is exactly the kind of shizzle my Husband wears and he looks damn good in it. 

I just want to mention sizing. Everything above is available in my size - 16 in dress and 9 shoe, and many items are available up to an XXXL which the website states is a size 20 (Mostly Carolina Herrera and Diane Von Furstenberg)  FarFetch is definitely worth a look for the incredible bags alone, but unless you're a smaller plus, clothing choice is limited.

For this year at least I'll be helicopter and designer dress free, which isn't a problem with me at all - If I ever end up anywhere other than Morrisons Caff, we all know love is dead...

Em x

24/01/2016

Caped Crusader - The Evans Plus Size cape dress

Hello.
It's me.
I was wondering if after all this time you'd like to look at some pictures of me in a rather nice caped dress?

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Black Cape Chiffon Dress* - Evans (Now in the sale!)
Tights* - Evans
Ankle Boots - New Look 
I'm not going to waste internet space writing about where I've been of late for the following reasons: 1. It's boring, 2. We need to save space on the internet for pictures of pandas in the snow and Javier Bardem with his shirt off. So lets get straight into it;

Before Christmas Evans got in touch and asked if I'd be interested in reviewing an outfit for them. I decided that as it was a gift I'd go for something completely different from usual - Hence the Black Cape Chiffon Dress*.

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The dress is fully lined with a chiffon overlay, keyhole neckline and and the piece de rĂ©sistance; A fabulous chiffon cape. 

If you don't love a cape you're basically a baddie. Capes make everything more exciting - Can you remember fastening the top button of your coat and running around the playground shouting "dinner dinner dinner dinner, dinner dinner dinner dinner BATMAAAN"? Well I can and this is almost exactly the same only slightly more acceptable at the age of 31.

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I really like where this dress sits on me - the length is the perfect "short" on me, I really like how it fits (I'm in a 16 which is very true to size) and I really like that it's not like anything else I own - Not one of my existing dresses has a cape which I've never previously been disappointed by. Now I am. 

I have the dress dressed down here with leather ankle boots because I was going to a birthday party and needed to be not only *comfortable* but also a bit swishy so that i could swish about and be one of life's winners. Saying this, I can imagine it with chunky heeled sandals for a city break when the weather bucks its ideas up.

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This dress is currently in the sale and if you're a kooky kitten like me there's also a stunning embellished version which is really tickling all my vintage senses,

I'm not just popping in for a sporadic blog here, unless something out of my control happens (Alien abduction / I finally contract salmonella from my husband who is 95% chicken nugget) I thoroughly intend to post regularly from hereon in. I have some corking outfits from Live Unlimited, Navabi and Biba to name a few so, frankly, it would be rude not to.

Em x
* Denotes gifted items but please be aware that I always state my own opinion.

03/01/2016

Five minutes on liking who you are when others do not.

Trigger warning: This post mentions previous issues around food, diet and body image. It also has a plethora of positive parts and it has a VERY happy ending and this is what I want you to take away with you. However, there are also elements which may be where you're at now, or bring up tough memories so please take care of yourself above all else and remember that you are entirely not alone, not at all, there are people (myself included) ready to listen to you should you want, need or think you could do with it.

It's been a funny year for me and my body image. 
2015 has been the first year of my adult life (I'm gonna count that as thirteen years although I've probably only been effectively adulting for two of those....) where I haven't done any of the following:
> Followed a fad diet
> Actively deprived myself of food 
> Skipped meals
> Taken supplements/weight loss aids/diet pills (with a view to changing how my body looks)
> Joined a gym only to leave three months later 

This year has also been the first year where the following things haven't happened:
> There have been no pre-night out "NOTHING FITS ME I LOOK TERRIBLE" palavas (I've still had the odd huff because I HAVE NO CLOTHES*) *blatant lie, my apologies.
> I haven't stayed in rather than go out for fear of negative repercussions. 
> I have not once physically compared myself to another woman. I have, however, admired many a banging babe without bringing myself down.
> I've eaten food with people I don't know, real food, not ordered a side dish because I worry what they think of me.
> I've looked at every photograph of myself and my first thought has been how much fun I was having at the time, rather than picking on my arms/dad chin/wonky nose. 

I've felt carefree, strong and downright glorious. I took the decision to like myself and I'm so bloody glad I did.

Sadly, this is where the story takes a bit of a twist....
I took the decision to like myself.
Unfortunately, not everyone else has to.

There's a bit of an assumption that fat women are ok to be fat if they are actively trying NOT to be fat. Perverse isn't it? When you let the world know that you are confident, strong and happy just exactly how you are (Because THAT IS WHO YOU ARE) it also opens the floor for people,to be confident, strong and happy in telling you why you shouldn't be those exact things. 

DISCLAIMER: This is not ALL people, MOST people have perspective, they have a recognition that your life is none of their damn business. They probably also think you're pretty hot. Because you are. 

In the past when I've received criticism from people around my appearance and (heeeeeere comes the world's stupidest thing ever.....) my "health" (I live at the doctors, I'm the worlds healthiest hypochondriac, plus, ironically, any recent issues have been due to me taking slimming pills in my youth...) I've been able to respond with "Yeah, but I'm going to the gym and have eaten like seventy salads in the last hour" whilst justifying it all to myself with the knowledge that I'm also actively destroying my insides with drugs from so called "slimming clinics". Then these people go away, happy that I'm aware I don't please them and that I'm going to do something about it. ISN'T THIS ALL LAUGHABLE?!?! 

Now, when faced with criticism, I merely say "I'm happy. Thank you for your concern". It feels good. It feels honest. This has really baffled some people. Women who have spent their entire lives dieting have thought twice about it, it all seems a bit silly when I'm doing everything they want to do AND having fish and chips for lunch. Friends have been overjoyed that I'm finally just being me, not a watered down me. For other people it's harder for them to get their heads round, they were happy with the watered down me, it fit in with their ideas of what "healthy" looked like and what "confident" should be. 

Not my circus. Not my monkeys. 

I'm staying true to myself, this is not an experiment, I am not playing at being fat and confident to upset people, I AM fat and I AM confident. 

Picture c/o the glorious Murder of Goths

I can't tell anyone what to do and how to live their lives, nor would I want to (I've got all on just looking after my own life....) I'm the least "together" person I've ever met but I can tell you now, freeing up the space in my mind that pleasing other people took up has given me space for infinitely better things. Infinitely better things which you'll all know all about soon. 

Em x