12/08/2017

Rethinking What Feels Good - The Cropped Jumpsuit


I really should have written this post ages ago but I didn't. The reasons for this are multiple but basically come down to the fact that I'm craving a holiday so hard that even just looking at myself having a nice time in the sun is like a knife to my sun-starved heart.

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Jumpsuit - Warehouse (Similar)
Wrap Sandals - Simply Be
Earrings - Zara (Similar)
I love me a good jumpsuit. Whenever there's an event where I want to feel put together, I find myself a good jumpsuit, some cracking earrings and a pair of heels and I feel fabulous all night. This year I took two away on holiday with me - The unspeakably useful wide legged Farrah jumpsuit from Joanie Clothing (£24 in the sale right now) and this cropped leg, tie waist jumpsuit from Warehouse.

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I think everyone has one piece of clothing that they want to love but that they just don't feel mega sexy in and this jumpsuit is it - It clings to my bum, it clings round my front lady pouch and the neckline has the potential to make my bosom look distinctly matronly, but here is the (big) but; It is comfortable, it is practical, it goes with heels just as well as it goes with trainers - It's basically an incredibly useful and versatile item to take on holiday. in fact, by the time I got back I'd decided to slot it into my corporate work wardrobe. I think I've started to realise that it's ok to not always feel sexy and that there's just as much value in feeling comfortable. 

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I'm really in to the stitched in belt detail as I mentioned in my last post, it just adds to the practicality element. I'd say that Warehouse sizing is on the smaller size - An 18 fits me really well. For these pictures, we were on our way out for a nice meal so I wore it with my wrap around sandals and some banging Zara earrings - Seriously, I don't even bother with anywhere else for statement jewellery any more, Zara have it in the bag. You will see that I also accesorised with a beautiful tone of sunburn - Please people, learn from my constant errors this year and go for more rather than less with the lotion. My skin is still looking horrendous more than a month later - It's not big and it's definitely not clever. 

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Looking at this last picture, I think I actually quite like how my butt looks... I should take more rear view shots...
Em x

03/08/2017

Bright As A Button - BeteArched Eyebrow x Navabi


This is a really special blog post, in that it's not every day I get to show off an item designed by one of my very special pals. Today is that day. 

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Belted Shirt Dress - Arched Eyebrow x Navabi
Leopard Courts - Simply Be (Similar
When Navabi announced that they would be hooking up with plus size influencers to create three capsule wardrobes, we all knew that something special was afoot. Just imagine the excitement when they then announced that one of those influencers was the frankly incredible Bethany Rutter of Arched Eyebrow. Now Bethany is probably one of the most talented people I know so it stands to reason that she be able to design banging clothes, though I don't think anyone could have imagined just how stunning this range was going to be. Arched Eyebrow x Navabi is a riot of block colours, utilising classic tailoring and modern sillhouettes to give us a range so rarely seen in plus size ranges. 

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The obvious thing that drew me to the belted dress was the colour - It is the most perfect green. Bright but not fluorescent, block but not boring. The next eye-catcher was the button shape - The most fabulous 80s detailing, glossy black triangles which, remarkably, actually make them really easy to fasten - Who'da thunk it?!? Then the mega long, mega wide belt which is stitched in at the seams so it won't fall off or move about and is just the one of the best fashion design features in the world in my opinion - You are always pulling the dress in at the right place meaning that the buttons don't pull and the seams sit in exactly the right place.

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I'm wearing a 16 here and the fit is PERFECT. There's plenty of room around the bust and the straight cut shape means that you can pull it in as tight or loose as you like with with the belt. The length is spot on for me, just below the knee, meaning I can wear it to work with courts or ankle boots and still look like a business bitch. I genuinely cannot see this dress being off my body when Winter sets in. The long (incredibly well made in terms of movement!) sleeves and thick fabric make it a wardrobe staple for the colder months and for this reason, and this reason alone, I cannot wait for them to start. . 

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There are so many other pieces of this range I'd love to get on my body, not least the incredible blue wool mix coat. I feel like this dress was made for me and reckon everyone who wears one of the Arched Eyebrow x Navabi items will feel the same way - There has been so much thought put into this range and it really shows. Bethany you have absolutely smashed it and I hope we get to see more...
Em x

30/07/2017

Intoxicated By You....


Now it's time for something a little sexy. Well at least *I* think it's sexy, you may think otherwise in which case I DO NOT CARE because sexy is in the eye of the beholder and my eyes say it is. 

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Intoxicate Balcony Bra* - Scantilly
Intoxicate High Waist Brief*- Scantilly 
This frankly perfect set is the Intoxicate by Scantilly, who you will know as Curvy Kate's sexy sister brand. Earlier this year I shared their beautiful best seller Peek-a-boo to great response so I was over the moon when they sent me this beauty. With sheer mesh cups and delicate eyelash cups, I was already head over heels before I'd got it on my body. 

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I love the tie details on both the bra and the briefs - It's sexy without being full bondage which is important to me because in all honesty, chains and whips do not excite me but chips and dips do. It also allows you to get exactly the right fit with not gaping or digging in. The design is just so well thought through, making it both beautiful and functional - Something I will always, always love about Scantilly. 

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My wonky bosom means that bras are always a bit too big in one cup (Which you my notice in the pictures) but it's infinitely better than double boob innit? With fit, I only really wear Curvy Kate, Scantilly and Freya nowadays (I swear there is nothing more comfortable) so it's really tricky for me to give you a comparison but I can say I'm a 34FF in pretty much everything but swimwear and that's what I'm wearing here with an XL in the brief (PERFECT fit on me) 

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The detailing on the new Scantilly pieces is just stunning - If you wear between a DD and HH I urge you to have a nosy. You won't be disappointed. 
Em x
*Denotes items gifted to me, all views are mine because I'm that kinda guy.

27/07/2017

Falling Back In Love With Fashion


We all lose our mojo sometimes. We get stuck in fashion ruts, we fall out of love with our beautiful bodies, we dont see ourselves the way that other people do. Then just as soon as you've lost it, you can find it again. AND I HAVE FOUND IT. 

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Tie Front Blouse* - Lovedrobe
Mum Jeans - H&M
Shoes - Topshop (Similar
I really really enjoyed taking the pictures for this post because I actually felt great. Genuinely great (Hence the title of the post!) and a lot of that came from shaking up my wardrobe just a little bit. Up until last week I had managed to let peasant blouses pass me by, now all of a sudden I have three... (How do these things happen?!?) but with luxe embroidery, shirring and tassels this Lovedrobe number is definitely my favourite. It sits so beautifully and is really grown up, even with just a pair of ripped jeans. 

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The top is an 18 and fits me like a glove. I'm sure a 16 would have been great too but with this style, the idea is that it's loose isn't it? So I'm going to say go for true to size. It's actually on offer at the moment for £28 and I cannot get across to you just how good value this is for such a well made blouse - I can see this in my wardrobe for years to come. 


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These jeans are SO far from anything else I have - Highwaisted, ripped (I think the term is actually "trashed" when they're this ripped?!?) AND cropped. Bonkers but I just love them. They're and H&M size 44 which I believe is an 18. I haven't fit into an H&M 18 since I was a real world size 12 so this is, once again, evidence that you should always try things where you can. In fact, I'm reluctant to shop as much with H&M because it REALLY grates that they don't stock a wider size range in-store, this said (jeeeeez I'm fickle) there's so much more online - I managed to find heaps of styles I never imagined would be available in 18/20/22. So yes -  My morals can be turned by a green jumpsuit...

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I'm sincerely hoping that this post is the first of many where you see me smiling and really really meaning it!

Em x
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16/07/2017

Floral Fancy with Yours Clothing


Ok, I said I was going to do a five minutes post but the words just aren't coming out of my fingers from inside of my head SO LOVELY PRETTY MAXI DRESS IT IS! 

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Bardot Maxi Dress* - Yours Clothing 
Please play the Little House On The Prairie theme tune in your head whilst you view these pictures, I'm SO gutted I couldn't find a hill of tall grasses to run down but, with the number of bones I've broken since I've started this blog, I think it's very much for the best. This Yours Clothing dress is one of those lovely floaty light floral dresses that always looks good on other people but not me EXCEPT THIS ONE DOES. 

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I can only put the success down to the fact that the shape is loose yet the elasticated ruching, which starts at the top and extends to the waist, offers just a enough structure for my liking - plus it keeps the dress from falling off which is nice. 

SO. Maxi Dresses. They generally aren't are they? Especially not on me. I probably wouldn't class this one as maxi either, rather a long midi BUT I recently learnt that maxi dresses are tricky, especially light coloured ones on freshly cut grass - You get a weird green ombre effect and then when you wash them they just end up looking sad and grey and a bit like something Miss Havisham might wear. So long midi is just A-okay with me. Also, I quite like not wearing shoes. Mainly because I have broken toes but partly because I'm a raging hippie at heart.

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I'm wearing a 16 here which is absolutely perfect so my advice would be to buy true to size, unless you're between sizes, in which case size down because life's generally easier when your dress doesn't fall down in my opinion. 

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If you're in the market for an "all occasion" Summer dress, Yours have some fabulous  maxi dresses right now - I'm a big fan of this long sleeved number on gorgeous Jess and Poppy looks INCREDIBLE in this bardot. 
Em x 

*Denotes item gifted for review - All the word shiz and opinion things come from my own head. 

09/07/2017

Summer Holiday Swimwear - Joanie Clothing


The tan has faded, the hangover has ended and this is the last in my Summer Holiday Swimwear Series *sniff* BUT AT LEAST I'M GOING OUT ON A CORKER!

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Ariel Bikini - Joanie Clothing
When Joanie Clothing told me that they would be launching a swimwear collection, I was VERY excited - I knew that their fun yet classic retro style would lend itself perfectly to Hollywood poolside glamour. Boy was I right. For crying out loud, JUST LOOK AT THE PRINT ON THIS BIKINI - It's utterly stunning. If bikinis aren't your style, the tropical coral leaf pattern is also available in a longline swimsuit which is equally as glam.

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This set is an 18 - I could have sized down easily on the high waisted briefs but the top definitely needed to be bigger in order to facilitate the ol' wangers - This is another top which isn't really suitable for jiggling about in, I mean, there's no wire so it should be no surprise that the support is limited. However, this also means it's INCREDIBLY comfortable. If you're after looking mega hot whilst reclining (when am I not) the high waisted brief cut and keyhole tie back top detail is perfect. Plus, at only £25 for high quality repro swimwear, you genuinely cannot go wrong. 

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I've got a lot going on inside my big old head this week, which usually means that it's time for another Five Minutes... post. After that, I'm going to share some of the beautiful dresses I wore on my holidays, you know to get some mental equilibrium back into the world.

Em x 

05/07/2017

Summer Holiday Swimwear - Simply Be


This is the second in my Summer Holiday Swimwear Series and today I have my top picks from Simply Be, who are all about poolside glamour this year - with bold prints and cutout detailing, I was spoilt for choice. 


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Longer Length Magisculpt Swimsuit - Simply Be 
I spotted this swimsuit at a recent Simply Be event and was immediately VERY into the colour -  IT'S JUST SO AB FAB. This is the kind of swimsuit that you would wear to a spa. When I say spa I mean bar by a swimming pool. Which is exactly what I did... I also have matching lipstick. Which I wore with it. Because I am just. that. glam.

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The longer length makes it utterly perfect for my height. I have to confess that I was put off by it being shape wear - I assumed it would be a bit too thick for the poolside and I'd end up sweating my tits right off. Luckily this wasn't the case at all - The magisculpt lining does mean that the suit is hard work to pull up (and down if you're in a rush for a wee . Which I always am) but it is otherwise spot on.


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String Tie Bikini Set - Simply Be 

The cutout detail of this string bikini is the kind of thing you see so rarely in plus sizes and I LOVE IT. Let me be honest, you won't be running any marathons in this top - The support is pretty non-existent despite the foam cups and silicone tape (The sticky stuff that holds it in place) but it's ideal for lounging about and is mega comfortable.

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Obvious words of advice - Watch your tan lines with this one. It's actually really good for pulling the straps down on so I managed to avoid any issues but I really don't know how you'd cover up these lines... Maybe go topless? I don't know, it's up to you. Be your own sexy self. 

Isn't it amazing how quickly you slip out of the holiday mode...? At least I can keep it going on the blog with one more bikini post after this!

Em x

28/06/2017

Summer Holiday Swimwear - Curvy Kate


If you follow me on Instagram, you'll know that I've just come back from my holidays and OH BY HECK I've had a lovely time. I pretty much spent ALL week in swimwear because we did  absolutely nothing but read, drink rum and relax. With this in mind, I thought it would be entirely appropriate to share my favourite bikinis and swimsuits with you, good reader. 

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Set Sail Balcony Bikini Top - Curvy Kate
Set Sail High Waist Briefs - Curvy Kate 

Part one of my Summer Holiday Swimwear Series (Renamed from Big Boob Bikinis because I thought I'd get the wrong kind of attention...) is the incredible Curvy Kate. All of the swimwear you see here is a 36F on the top and on the 18 bottom (With bikinis I tend to go up one back size just because I don't want them to be quite as tight as my bras)  On my jollies I like to take a mix of high waisted and hipster briefs away with me as well as different style tops to support with the anti-tanline battle (More important than ever as I'm a bridesmaid on Saturday!) so the ability to mix and match every piece of Curvy Kate swimwear is ideal. 

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Reflex Balcony Bikini Top - Curvy Kate
Reflex Short - Curvy Kate
Sarong - H&M
(This is a stupidly small sarong - I wouldn't recommend beyond a size 18)

I've said it before but I've not always been as confident in wearing bikinis, however, I can honestly say that with most things (Like eating broccolli) it gets easier the more you do it. This year I didn't even think about it, I just put a bikini on and frolicked about, almost like I was just a human woman on holiday with a body in swimwear - WEIRD RIGHT?!? 

I've also mentioned how important it is to be around people who respect you and your body - I know that this isn't always easy and I'm very lucky that after 33 long years I'm finally at the point where I can honestly say that I don't have to think about this any more. My husband sees me on a daily basis and as such my body is no surprise to him - He knows exactly what he's getting and he, I quote; "likes that it's all smooth" (Freaking weirdo...) Any people in my life who may still take issue are very aware that the "body" discussion is well and truly off the table and that my happiness is far more important than any opinions they may have. I cannot tell you how liberating this is. 

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Reflex Plunge Bikini Top - Curvy Kate
Reflex Short - Curvy Kate 

I want to say something a bit weird here and I don't know how it will come across but I'm going to say it anyway: 
I get quite a few messages from people saying they wish that their body was more like mine.

1. I'd firstly like to say thank you, I know that these comments are made with loving intention and that you mean what you say. There have been times when I've battled with my figure, I've never looked anything like my friends, I am a large person from all angles- 6ft tall with everything to match (plus the squish) but I do love my body now - It's the one I have and it would be silly not to. 

2. These are photos of me standing still in great lighting, I still love my body in other lighting and at other angles but I certainly don't always look this poised and sweat-free. When I move I fall over or bump into things (Check out the thigh bruise above and the fact that I currently have two broken toes...) Basically, don't believe the hype. 

3. Please never wish that your body was like mine. Please never wish that you look like anyone but yourself. Please use some of the energy you put into admiring other people into admiring yourself. I regularly say that "Comparison is the thief of joy" and I mean it - I freaking ADORE Sofia Vergara's body but I don't wish I had it because I already have a body. There will always be someone out there who looks at what you have and thinks PHWOAR. in fact, it's probably me. So send me pictures...

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 Curvy Kate are huge advocates of self-love and are currently running a campaign asking YOU you take the month long challenge of treating your body the same way that you treat your best friends. Think of the way that you see your friends, you love them unconditionally, you would walk through buzzy wasps for them, yet we are often our own worst critics, I know I can be guilty of it BUT this is really making me think - It's just one month, all you have to do is adore yourself as much as you adore all the other babes in my life. Who knows, it may even stick...?

If you tag @curvykate and use the hashtag #MyBodyMyBFF on Instagram then you could be in with a chance of winning amazing prizes every single day (Check out their BLOG for more competition details)
Em x 

15/06/2017

Plus Size Occasionwear with Live Unlimited


I've got some more plus size occasionwear for you - This time it's something a bit pared back and cool. Think chic city wedding followed by a merlot or twelve in a classy wine bar. 

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Occasion Dress* - Live Unlimited
Jacket - ASOS
Bag - New Look (Similar)
Shoes - ASOS 

I've always seen Live Unlimited as grown up and elegant, with its abstract mono print and jersey turn up sleeves, this dress is no exception to the rules. I dont know about you but I find a mock-wrap dress infinitely less worrying than a true wrap. No chance of flashing anyone or getting something stuck in your knickers/down the toilet...

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I tend to stay away from asymmetry in fashion, I'm just a very symmetrical person you see. Despite this, I love how the top layer of the dress drapes, taking it from a Tshirt dress to something much more interesting. Paired with a blazer and accessories in a primary colours, you have something simple but striking. 

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I think everyone should have a dress like this in their wardrobe, it's been fab for work (Purely because I have no occasions!) and is like the frock equivalent of that perfect fitting t-shirt you pull on and feel instantly fab in. Live Unlimited have some beautiful dresses for the Summer - This tropical print shirt dress is Miami Vice perfection. 

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I just need to take this chance to say that I'm so sorry I've been AWOL dear reader(s), I have no reasoning other than the fact that I've been beyond the busiest person in the world. However, I have some time in the sun coming which I'm hoping it will lend itself well to showing you some of my frankly incredible holiday wardrobe (Honestly, I've never been so excited about a suitcase!) I also have a rather dramatic spray tan so even if you just check my Instagram to laugh at someone whose face is the same colour as my hair, please don't write me off just yet guys!!!


Em x 
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11/05/2017

Plus Size Occasionwear with Studio 8


It's that time of year when there's a posh frock occasion around every corner. Weddings, Christenings, proms and, on this occasion, a day at the races care of the lovely people at Studio 8.


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Dress - Studio 8
Shoes - Simply Be
Hat - Accessorize
 (Similar)
I can't lie, I was a little bit concerned about dressing for Ascot. When I get dressed up it tends to be after dark and for no more than 6/7 hours in total. This day was set to start at 8:30am and I wasn't due home until the early hours of the next day, so I knew I needed something comfortable, non-crease, easy to wear yet glamorous as f*ck. Luckily, the Jennifer dress ticked all the boxes.

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I was initially sold on the Jennifer based on the length - I much prefer below the knee for the daytime but, as you know, this isn't always as simple for a taller person. Fortunately, this dress sits at the perfect length. I also love a full skirt, especially when it's not too fussy. This one holds its shape through the cut rather than netting which is a big plus point for me. The modern floral print brings in that many colours that I could have accessorised with pretty much anything I wanted - All I needed to do is pair it with a simple fascinator and sandals and I was away.


As for size. I'm currently a 16-18 and am prone to sizing up because I don't at all like being squished or squeezed. With Studio 8 I'm a 16, for the simple reason that the clothes are made to fit a plus sized body, which I think we can all agree is remarkable. The dress I'm wearing here is an 18 but I was aware of the occasional gape - ideal for the sheer amount of food I got in my body (canap├ęs, four courses and an afternoon tea - BLISS) but I will definitely go smaller next time round.

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Friends, I was on my best behaviour. I barely swore, I only winked at people I felt could take it and most importantly; I did not get hammered and/or fall over. the dress was so flipping easy to wear; I didn't need to pull it up or down, the lining stayed where it should be and I felt utterly lovely all day, even when I was sitting on the train at midnight drinking prosecco out of the bottle...

I had a genuinely lovely day with some utterly wonderful women, not least Hayley from Curves & Curls (Below, wearing the Iris dress and Leanne jacket) . I've always been a fan of Hayley, she's just so full of life - fun, filthy and really very lovely to look at. Spending the day with her was an absolute pleasure and I look forward to doing it again. 

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All that's left to do is to thank Studio 8 and their lovely, lovely occasionwear for such an excellent day. I have had the honour of some wonderful experiences through blogging and this is definitely at the top of the list.
Em x

All photos above were taken by Marlene Lee, who is not only a tremendous photographer but also a thoroughly lovely person. 

28/04/2017

Five Minutes on Small Fat Privilege


I’ve touched on the topic of small fat privilege before on both the Terrible Tumbles and in this article for Bustle but one of the predominant reasons I've decided to write this post is in the hope it answers some of the questions I'm most frequently asked by other smaller fats. 

'When You're Accustomed to Privilege, Equality Feels Like Oppression' 

The quote above is one I think about often in all elements of my life, I'm sure many of you have completed training around bias, diversity and inclusivity but privilege is something which (particularly amongst the privileged) goes unchecked.

There’s a truly brilliant comic strip by Toby Morris called “On a plate” which I’ve been able to use to illustrate the idea on many occasions where I’m getting nowhere with words. Privilege is rampant in so many areas; gender, race, ableism, age, class but I’m going to focus on small fat privilege in the fat community (because it’s what I know innit?). I’m also going to be using the terminology “Small/er fats” and “large/r fats” – If this offends in any way I’m sorry but this is the language I’m comfortable with and put frankly; it’s fact.

The “But my life hasn’t been easy, I’m the fattest of all my friends and not everything in Topshop fits me” conversation, simply doesn't cut it with me any more. This doesn't mean that I would EVER want to minimise your feelings because I genuinely know that it's not fun. We are, as humans, by nature, conditioned to “Fit in”, to not take up space and the funny fat friend trope is exhausting.  But unless you’re at the top end of the fat scale or a smaller fat with a non-normative figure, I hate to say it, but we’ve had it easy pal. In no way am I saying that I'm apologetic for who I am and what I look like, that makes absolutely no sense BUT the occasions of fatphobia and micro aggressions I've encountered as a smaller fat boil down to around ten in my whole entire life. Other than the very occasional issue, I'm allowed to just live – This is my privilege.

When you get to a certain point of the fat scale, or when you’re a smaller fat with non-normative body, you are systemically assaulted by every element of society. It's not only clothes that don't fit your body, it's knee braces, seatbelts and chairs. It's people making assumptions about your health based on nothing beyond your physical appearance. It's being afraid to eat in public for fear of abuse. It's doctors waving off genuine health concerns as being weight related. It's being deemed unsuitable to raise a child due to nothing but your BMI. It's knowing that every woman on the TV who looks like you is either there to laugh at or as the "before" picture. It's every time you try to love yourself someone tells you not to. Please don't take my word for it, listen to the words of people who experience this on a daily basis here. These are just some of the experiences that set the ends of the scale apart and I want you to remember this. 

Here are some of things I've done and will continue to do in examining my privilege: 


Listen
If you dont know what the difference in experience between you and someone at the larger end of the fat scale is; Listen. There are people out there talking about it, be this on twitter, in forums or events. Listen to what they're saying whilst remembering that it is not someone's job to educate you on why you have offended them. Also, it's a tough lesson, but don't get butthurt if someone calls out your privilege.

Research
The following articles have helped me to understand small fat privilege:
I know there are plenty more articles out there so if you can think of something else, please let me know and I'll add a link.

Think about your own Fatphobia
I get the feeling that this is the toughest thing to do, it's certainly the issue I encounter the most in other people. Identifying as fat doesn't automatically rid you of a lifetime of fatphobic views, in the same way that being a woman doesn't automatically make you a feminist. If your version of fat acceptance focuses on your view of "health" or what's deemed as a socially acceptable version of fat, then it isn't fat acceptance. 
Step Back
As a plus size woman of any size, you will find a space on the internet where you can be be supported and loved. Not a day goes by where I don't thank my lucky stars that such a huge group of incredible, intelligent women have accepted me into their lives and are willing to tolerate my nonsense. My only words of advice would be, chill it with the “It’s not fair that smaller fats have a lesser voice”. Our voice is out there, we are represented, we are visible. We are in every plus size advert going, we are the "acceptable face of being fat". 

Never erase or quieten the voices of women larger than yourself. Recognise that fatphobia is much bigger than not being able to buy clothes on the high street. It's about poor medical care, abuse, poverty and discrimination. Support larger fat women as dominant voices in the fat acceptance conversation and recognise your privilege. 
Em x